• A Father’s Day


    Dear boys,

    Today was good. I watched you sleeping as I lay next to you—like every other weekend we’re together. All too soon you will be too big for me to sleep in between you, swing you from my limbs, and kiss you on the lips. I’m aware of the frailty lining these moments.

    Harrison, my firstborn, my strength. Your eyes are a mirror into my childhood—the joys, the disappointments, the victories, the defeats. There is this joy in your chocolate eyes that lights up a room.

    Jonah, my baby, my heart. Everything I loved about your mother I experience in you. We speak an unspoken language in the hugs, wrestling matches and piggyback rides we share. I vividly remember the day I found out I was having a second son...they told me I’d have a little girl. But you arrived, and have not ceased to amaze since.

    Sons, nothing you do will ever change the way I feel about you. Follow these rules when we are apart. And when we are together, may we live in our moments.

    • Take lots of pictures.
    • The key to good photography is not timing. It’s editing.
    • Live in New York City at some point.
    • Make sure your clothes fit properly
    • Spend time with your mother. She’s cooler than you think.
    • Learn to tie a bow tie.
    • Never side against your brother in a fight.
    • Don’t be afraid to ask out the best-looking girl in the room.
    • When shaking hands, grip firmly and look him in the eye.
    • Always use your last name when introducing yourself.
    • Surprise me at the office. Trust me, whatever I’m doing is not as important as you.


    *Modified version previously featured on All Plaid Out.

    Jun 22, 2011 | Permalink (23) Total Comments

    Stephanie left a comment on 2/18/2012 at 8:56 AM:

    I love your blog (reading it in Tokyo!) and this post about your sons is heartwarming.  I am the mom of three (two of whom are boys) and think your advice is thoughtful and very sweet. Keep up the good word, dad!  -Stephanie (thetravelbugphotoblog.blogspot.com)

    Shelby left a comment on 8/25/2011 at 9:30 PM:

    Wow! I hope my hypothetical, future husband is this great of a father. This is fantastic.

    PrepFan left a comment on 6/30/2011 at 7:52 AM:

    They are adorable, not to mention their style is impeccable even at there young age. Your words of wisdom don’t just apply to them, but to everyone, including us reading them! Well done, brilliant post, one of your best.

    Annica Benning left a comment on 6/25/2011 at 11:32 AM:

    Too cute

    Tripp left a comment on 6/25/2011 at 2:45 AM:

    this is purely beautiful. it really warms my heart. i have not had a great relationship with my father after my mother divorced him long ago to marry someone with a bigger wallet, and this post has really made me realize that when i have children i need to be as close to them as possible as a father, and not just leave them alone like my father did to me and my sister. Wow Unabashedly Prep, not only are you inspiring me sartorially, but emotionally as well! Thank you

    C.H. left a comment on 6/24/2011 at 5:25 AM:

    what shorts is the 2nd kid wearing? is that a map print? LOOKS AWESOME.

    Kat left a comment on 6/23/2011 at 3:06 PM:

    This is precious.

    Julie left a comment on 6/23/2011 at 10:11 AM:

    Thank you for setting a great example and cherishing your children for the gifts they really are.

    Lee Anne left a comment on 6/23/2011 at 2:32 AM:

    This still chokes me up every time I read it. Your boys are so great. They will treasure this letter when they are old. Glad you got to spend Father’s Day with them. Great photos. They are growing so fast!

    Wade M. K. left a comment on 6/23/2011 at 2:28 AM:

    Cutest thing ever. You’re a great daddy.

    Joey Dee left a comment on 6/23/2011 at 1:13 AM:

    Good to know that there are dads out there that take such interest in their kids lives. It looks like you guys enjoy yourselves when you’re together! I have a daughter, and she is my world!
    I like the idea of having a how/what to dress kids in feature.

    C. left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 10:51 PM:

    You have officially elevated your talent to something only few can understand and others only wish to experience; I being one of the latter. You have brilliantly mixed your photography, fashion, genes, writting and fatherly love into what is my favorite post. I will definately be showing this post as an example of your fine work. Couldn’t ask for anything more.

    Dennis left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 9:30 PM:

    I’ve never had children and at my advancing years it’s one of the biggest regrets I have.

    That was one of the most touching writings I’ve ever read.


    Carlos left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 6:46 PM:

    Perfect fatherly advice.

    Katherine left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 5:39 PM:

    Wow! Your sons are adorable and on top of that impeccably dressed - not that that should come as a surprise to any of your regular readers. Great photos!

    Mattias left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 5:16 PM:

    Beautiful! It’s not often love is so obvious.

    CozyMolar left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 4:04 PM:

    Such cute kids… I can see by their style they are following in your footsteps.

    Very touching.

    Charley B. left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 3:15 PM:

    You have some very fashionable little boys! You should really start posting more of what they wear, we all could use ideas for how to dress our children like us too.

    dam left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 1:13 PM:

    thanks for sharing, FEC!

    Desmond K left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 11:39 AM:

    Great post,sharp kids. And the advice is awesome. Especially the one about giving firm handshakes. If its one thing I hate its a guy who slaps a dead fish in my hand. I’ve got two kids of my own whom I’m tryna implant some of these same values in.

    Clay left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 11:19 AM:

    That was one of the best blog entries I have ever read.  Beautiful!  So deep and thoughtful.  I love this blog and this post puts it in the highest company.  I loved “live in NYC” and “Ask out the best-looking girl” advise.

    Lissi left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 11:14 AM:

    This made my day.  Thank you for sharing xo

    chantal left a comment on 6/22/2011 at 10:56 AM:

    so sweet…and your boys are so adorable.  i remember seeing pics you posted of them on your old blog, they’re growing into such handsome little men!

    i was just talking with my husband the other day about how big our son is now, and how he used to love to hug, kiss and cuddle with him when he was little.  it’s a wonderful thing for a father to be so affectionate with this sons.  wonderful—-and important too.  my husband said he misses those days…now, with a 15 yr old, he’s lucky to get a hug that lasts more than 4 seconds.  enjoy your time with your little boys….they grow way too fast.